My friend Nora asked how to better avoid bad actors...
My 'off the top of my head' response:
1. Pay attention to people's behavior instead of their words
2. Notice their behavior even in the smallest of things because that same pattern will usually apply to bigger things
3. Notice what they hate - they might be identifying things they hate in themselves (Sabrina adds: note what they love and laugh at in others, also revealing about what they value)
4. Avoid people who take zero responsibility for the frustrations/conflict in their life.
5. Avoid people who speak/think in absolutes