Some people can't take responsibility for their own actions or outcomes. They frequently consider themselves the victim of people or circumstances.
Some people are quick to take responsibility for all the experiences they have in life believing that they fundamentally own their outcomes - whether they cause it or frame it in a certain way.
As usual, the truth is usually somewhere in the middle. You can't control being struck by lightning but you can control how you view the incident and how you let it affect your life/decisions from there.
I tend to lean towards taking responsibility. At least when I am most 'awake'. I try to avoid blaming others for my experience. I try to identify how I could have performed better or communicated better. At the very least, I believe, I should have identified and optimized for their POV (right or wrong) more quickly in order to optimize my behavior and the overall outcome.
Sometimes, though, I realize that I've over-indexed on taking responsibility and accepting other people's narratives/view of the world. There are times when - in fact - the other perspective is simply, flat out, wrong.