There's a line where being kind and supportive becomes being a pushover. Being optimistic becomes being naive. Being resilient becomes being stubborn. Being open to feedback becomes giving up your truth. Being long-term focused becomes sacrificing precious short-term happiness while you have your health and autonomy. Being opinionated and setting high expectations becomes being unreasonable.
Finding the line (and staying on the right side of it) is one of the great challenges of my life. As I'm sure it is for many others.
I try to navigate this tension by a) biasing toward abundance and openness - being ok with crossing the line a little bit and b) constantly gut checking myself looking against multiple data points.
I often find myself accidentally deep into the wrong side and have to make a quick dash back over.